It’s Not Private, It’s Independent
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The EX has been pressuring me to investigate a local private school for Bridget. I have been digging my heels in about this because my liberal heart does not believe in private school. I feel that if everyone who can afford to check out of public school does, then public school has no chance of survival.
However. (You knew there was a however coming, didn’t you?)
I am so displeased with the state of public education here in Texas especially, but I think it’s very similar throughout the country. This is hard for me to say because I have so many friends who are teachers. The problems I’m talking about have nothing to do with teachers. It’s the entire idea behind public school. Kids aren’t encouraged to think and learn, they are encouraged to memorize facts and spit them back out on a standardized test. I used to think that I got a good education from public school, and maybe it was better than some public schools in the country. I was deemed “smart” or “gifted” early on. But here’s the thing. I’m not really. I have a good memory and am fantastic at spitting facts back out on tests. When I got to college, I realized very quickly that I had no idea how to study or make the leap from knowing a fact to putting that fact to practical use.
Private schools can present their own problems. I imagined a school with blazers with crests and plaid skirts, and rich kids with attitudes and rich parents with even worse attitudes. I didn’t want Bridget’s peer group to be a bunch of entitled little snots. I didn’t want her to feel like the poor kid amongst all that wealth. And would the quality of the education really be that much better?
The EX had attended an information session at a local private school a few weeks ago and was wowed and really wanted me to go too. In the spirit of cooperation, I went, reluctantly.
And boy howdy, did I learn a lesson on being prejudiced. This school was amazing. First of all, they don’t call themselves a private school, they consider themselves independent of the state school system. Second, the other parents there were in no way the stuck up douches I fully intended to meet there. The founder of the school and the head of the school talked about the mission and the curriculum and I was bowled over. The kids will come out of this school bi-literate (not bi-lingual. Bi-literate. Meaning she could read, write and speak in both) in English and Spanish, and proficient in Mandarin. The mission of the school is to produce people who are “global citizens of the 21st century.” That really impresses me. I want Bridget to be curious about the rest of the world and understand that everyone in the world is connected to each other.
I could give you more details about the whole thing but that would be very boring to you, I’m sure. Suffice it to say, that I want her to go here.
The question of money is not insignificant. I’ve told The EX that I can be of little to no financial help but he seems to think he can afford it. There is also financial aid available so that’s an option too. The other little bonus to this school is that since I wouldn’t have to worry about school districts, it opens up parts of the city to me that I figured I could never consider living in.
So I’m struggling to reconcile this wonderful opportunity for Bridget with my own liberal agenda. I guess I need to set that aside and realize that if Bridget has the chance at a world class education, I should not try to hold her back because of my politics.
The longer I live, the more I have to remember to never say never.

